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Organizing Camisoles

For many people, camisoles are a wardrobe essential and it’s easy to accumulate a collection. I’ve tried a few different ways for organizing camisoles. My favorite, by far, is on a belt hook.

Before I tell you why – I’d like to show you a few other options you could consider for your wardrobe based on your organizing style and preferences.

On Hangers

  • One hanger for every camisole. If you like to hang clothing and have ample closet-rod space, this could be a nice option for you. It allows you to easily see each camisole and its details such as color, length and trim. For my closet, though, this method took up too much rod space.
  • Camisoles organized by color, per hanger. This method lasted a few months for my closet. I love that it was more compact than the previous method mentioned, but I found that I wasn’t a fan of having to remove some camisole straps to get to another that was a layer or two deep. You may want to give this a try!

  • Camisoles on shower rings, all on a single hanger. I’ve seen on Pinterest and some other blogs that people love this method. I can see why. It’s a space saver, for sure. However, having to unlock the closure of the ring every time I wanted a camisole wasn’t a fit for my organizing style, so this method lasted about a week before I scrapped it. Given how popular this seems to be, it may work for you, so don’t knock it ‘til you try it!

Folded in Drawers

  • If you like to fold rather than hang, this could work for you. My only qualm is that this method makes it hard to discern the differentiators for each camisole such as the length of the top or if it has detailing such as lace trim. If I had more drawer space, I might consider this as my second favorite method, but the belt hook won out! Tip: consider separating the folded camisoles using a sock-drawer divider with labels for an even faster way to find the one you’re looking for.

On a Belt Hook

  • This is my winner (so far – never know what the future holds!). With this method, it’s so easy to see what I have and it’s super easy to take out each item and put it back. I keep this in my closet on the rod, but you could hang it somewhere else in your home, of course.

While you may think it’s trivial to spend so much thought and time organizing something as simple as a camisole, when you combine it with the other organization tools I’ve put into my wardrobe, getting dressed is a breeze, since a lot of the stress and guesswork has been taken out of the process.

What are some of your favorite things to organize for a more streamlined day?

How to Fight Fair

Image source: Google (labeled for re-use with modification)

Image source: Google (labeled for re-use with modification)

I could feel my face heating up in splotches, flushing into an unflattering shade of sriracha-sauce red. My vision blurred as the water began to well up in my eyes.

I choked a little as I hiccupped and gasped, squeezing my eyes tight to try to stop the tears from falling, but they eventually won the battle and ran down my cheeks in salty triumph. Feeling embarrassed, I hastily used the back of my hand to wipe away the remaining liquid betrayal from my eyes.

“Why are you crying?”

Attempting to prevent the loud kind of sobs that often accompany an ugly-cry, I started to mumble in between shuddering breaths: “Because… I’m angry, but I don’t have the words to express why…so my emotions have nowhere to go except out my eyeballs!*” The end of the statement came out more like a wail than intelligible words.

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The scenario above is a true one from many moons ago, when I was working through a disagreement with my beau at the time. Suffice to say my verbal communication skills were not very polished and needed improvement. Over time, though, I learned a lot about the importance of clear communication, honesty, integrity, kindness and generosity.

Whether you’re single or spoken for, I believe there’s still a lot of great information out there about how to be a great partner. So in the spirit of continuous improvement, I asked a few trusted individuals in long-term, healthy relationships for their best advice on how to fight fair. Here’s what they had to say:

  • Watch your tone. “I try to control the tone and rate of the way that I speak – it goes a long way in deescalating a situation. Once you go there [to yelling], everything gets heightened. Instead of raising my voice, I take a pause and remember to speak in a calm, respectful tone.”
  • Take a breather. “It’s wonderful to be able to hit the pause button, especially if it seems like the conversation is going in circles or if it’s getting really late into the night and you’re exhausted. Your partner needs to be willing and OK with taking a break too, though. Rather than just walking away in a huff, I tell my significant other that I need some time alone to think and that I’ll revisit the issue.”
  • Walk the talk. “Sometimes I find it easier to talk to my partner when we’re walking outside. It feels less like a pressure cooker and since we’re in public, it’s an automatic reminder to keep our voices respectful.”
  • Listen. “Sometimes when an argument heats up, each person is so eager to get their point across that they begin interrupting and not listening to what the other person has to say. It’s important to pause and engage in active listening so that you can hear what your partner is saying. It’s also helpful if you make an effort to see the issue from their perspective.”
  • Be vulnerable. Be human. “If you talk about your feelings and use sentences that start with ‘I feel,’ well, that can make all the difference. If you come at them like: ‘RAWWRRRRR…. You did this bad thing!’ then of course the conversation is not going to go well.”
  • Pick your battles. “Take some time –it could be anywhere from 30 minutes to several hours– to determine if something is truly worth having a fight over. For example, if you decide to mull over an issue overnight and it’s still bothering you the next day, it’s probably worth addressing it with your significant other and not letting it fester.”
  • Choose your time wisely. “Finding the right time to talk is very important. It’s hard for me to have a calm conversation if an altercation starts as soon as I walk through the door after a long day at work. Please, give me at least 30 minutes to decompress! Another time that’s not good to start up a disagreement: 1am!”
  • Be respectful of your partner’s needs. “We all process situations and feelings differently. When you’re ready to really get in there and talk through an issue, your partner may still need time alone to think. It can be difficult, but try to find a compromise so that both partners are able to have a productive and respectful discussion.”

I hope you found some of this information helpful and interesting. If you have any advice you’d like to share – especially if you know how to master the ‘pretty cry,’ please send me a note or leave a comment. Until then, may your days be filled with smiles. And, if there are tears, may they be of joy!

*Kudos if you noticed the similarity to a scene from Sex and the City S06 E11.

Q&A with a Professional Organizer [‘How to Start Decluttering’ Edition]

This week’s guest blog post comes to us from Bonnie Dewkett, a certified professional organizer who began organizing as a child, and has been organizing ever since. Her company, The Joyful Organizer, creates and implements organizational systems for both the home and office. Passionate about helping others meet their organizational goals, Bonnie loves to see the positive impact that getting organized has on people’s lives.


“I need to declutter, but I’m having trouble letting go of sentimental items or practical things that I might need ‘someday.’ What should I do?”

The best thing is to ask yourself what it’s costing you to keep the item.  If you pay rent or a mortgage you’re paying a per foot cost for everything in your home.  If it’s not worth that cost, out it goes.  Many items can be replaced for much less than you are paying to store them.  Another question to ask yourself is: “If I moved today, would I pay someone to move this for me?”  If the answer is no, donate it.

For sentimental items, I suggest giving yourself (and every other family member in the household) a limit.  For example, one tote per person.  The items inside the tote can change over time, but keeping your sentimental items limited is key.

If something is very meaningful to you, consider finding a way to honor it. For example, before donating something, I like to take a photo of it. You could also consider projects such as framing a piece of a wedding dress, using a shadow box for jewelry, or making a quilt from old t-shirts.

“When I start organizing a very cluttered space (attic, garage, etc.). I get overwhelmed by the volume of stuff. How do I stay motivated when it feels like there’s no end in sight?”

Break every large organizing project down into smaller tasks.  If you’re organizing the garage, make yourself a list.  It might look like this:

  • Sort through boxes
  • Sweep the floor
  • Add in shelves
  • Buy totes
  • Hang garden tools

Breaking a large project down into tasks makes it seem less overwhelming. It also allows you to find the time for each smaller task.  If you’re sorting through a number of boxes, remove those boxes, one at a time to another space.  Going through them one at a time allows you to focus and keeps the feeling of being overwhelmed to a minimum.

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“Is there one product or tool that you think everyone should use to help them stay organized?”

I love binders.  By inserting page protectors you can store just about anything; take out menus, manuals for appliances, printables, photos, and so much more.  My other favorite is the over-the-door shoe rack.  These are available at just about every super store (and even some dollar stores) and they can hold ANYTHING.  I love to use them for toys, snacks, water bottles, first aid supplies, accessories like scarves and mittens, arts and crafts supplies or even dolls.

“If someone is looking for professional help, but they’re not sure about how to budget for it or what type of services to get, what advice would you give to them?”

There are lots of affordable options out there for every budget.  Many organizers will design a plan for you so that you know what to do and when to do it.  It takes the guesswork out of the process.  Other organizers can even help you virtually through phone calls or videoconference sessions.  This keeps you accountable and on task.  If you can’t afford an organizer, find an organizing buddy with a neighbor or friend.  Spend time helping each other get organized and holding each other accountable for your goals.

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For more information, visit The Joyful Organizer website or email info@thejoyfulorganizer.com.